We have all had those days. They probably crop up more often than we care to think of. We are in a rush and the universe seems to be against us because of it. We needed to be out of the door ten minutes ago but our children are still deciding what colour socks they feel like wearing today or are refusing to put their coat on. The traffic is much worse than usual and every other driver doesn’t seem to know the rules of the road. Perhaps you get the train and and you can’t find a seat. Now the man with a horrid lurgy is standing far too close for your liking and doesn’t understand the basic rules of hygiene when coughing on a packed tube.
I find that on a daily basis my head is filled with ‘white noise’.
While doing one job I am thinking about another, bills that need paying, things that needs cleaning or deadlines that need meeting.
My thoughts often run away with me. I have a hugely overactive imagination and while these days I embrace that and use it to my advantage with my work, in the past it has hindered me quite a lot.
I find myself trying to keep multiple spinning plates in the air on a daily basis as my thought process leads me to starting multiple jobs at once (think emptying the dishwasher while putting a wash on, wiping down the oven and making breakfast). Ultimately I end up stressed, unproductive, and overwhelmed.
I was sent a quote from my friend last year and while there are many inspirational quotes floating around on the internet these days, this one stuck. I remember reading it and the instant impact it had.
This simple little quote made me realise that the way you feel about yourself and the way you present yourself to the world has a major impact on how people see you, treat you and even feel about you.
We’re a nation of technology lovers. You’re in a very small minority if you don’t own a smartphone or engage with social media on a regular basis. Most of us would probably deny a reliance on technology, but leave your mobile at home and you suddenly realise how many times you reach for your absent device. We’re obsessed.
I’m don’t tend to make new year’s resolutions. Not because I don’t see their value and not because I’m sceptical about being able to keep them… I just don’t make them.
This year was no exception; I didn’t enter into January was a list of hard and fast resolutions, however recently I’ve vowed to set myself small goals throughout the year governed by an overarching aim; to be happy and try my best.
At the end of 2016 my mother-in-law suggested I start a ‘happiness jar’ and it’s one of the best resolutions I’ve ever made.
The principle is simple – it’s an effective way to remind yourself about all the good things in life, which can so easily be forgotten about when you’re thrown a curveball. In 2017 my husband and I experienced perhaps the toughest year in our decade long relationship, and our ‘happiness jar’ taught us a lot about resilience, hope, and gratitude.
When it comes to looking after people we – especially women – can tend to put the needs of everyone else before our own.